I hope this post will be helpful to those just starting out or any one who is looking to brush up on hair ins and outs. I've complied links to articles and threads from longhaircareforum.com that have helped me immensely. I will continue to add and update this post when I come across more helpful, informative posts/articles.
My advise to those just starting out: Be patient and do plenty of research! Hair forums like longhaircareforum.com are teeming with information. If you try something, a technique, a product, and it doesn't work as well for you than for someone else, don't get discouraged, no two heads of hair are alike. Regroup and try again. Setbacks, unfortunately, may happen, but hair does grow back and with knowledge, you'll learn what your hair responds positively/negatively to. Take pictures of your starting length and at intervals during your hair journey because seeing the progress you've made is very rewarding and a confidence booster! Even if you haven't reached your goal length yet, you'll be able to see the difference in hair health, thickness, etc. Ignore the doubters, ignore the nay-sayers, ignore the haters! Let your progress be your proof! Oh, and start a blog/youtube channel so I can stalk follow :)
Hair Myths, Truths, & Mistakes
Breakage
- My Biggest Hurdle: Breakage
- Tips For Retaining Your Length
- Breakage: Breaking It Down by Kim Fancy of Fancy Flair Lady
Clear Rinses
- Benefits:
- Reduces the friction between hair strands and silks hair, reducing breakage.
- Seals in moisture by sealing the cuticle.
- Correct porosity because clear/colored rinses contain proteins that bind to the hair shaft.
- Video by EbonyCPrincess on clear rinses
- Differences Between Hair Rinses Vs. Glazes by EbonyCPrincess of Longing4Length
- Boost the Effectiveness of Deep Conditioning With Heat
- Product Review: Secura O3 Facial & Hair Steamer
- Hydrate Your Hair With the Nourishing Qualities of Steam by Relaxed Hair Health
- Conditioning Your Hair 101: How to & Different Types by Ebony of Longing4Length
- Product Review: Vanilla Silk Cream Moisture Dream Conditioner - my current staple moisturizing deep conditioner
- Product Review: KeraPRO Restorative Treatment - staple deep conditioner
- Product Review: Aubrey Organics Honeysuckle Rose
- Product Review: Kenra Moisturizing Conditioner
- Product Review: Matrix Biolage Hydratherapie Conditioning Balm
- Product Review: Redken All Soft Heavy Cream
Direct Heat
Hard Water- List of a few chelating shampoos with may help.
- Doing an ACV rinse or using Roux Porosity Control to lower your hair's pH to counteract the high pH of hard water.
- What is hard water? Water that contains high levels of minerals.
Henna (and cassia) Henna or cassia applications are a great, natural way to stretchen and thicken up your hair.
- The Benefits of Cassia Treatments for Relaxed Hair by Audrey Sivasothy
- My Cassia Application
- Mixing Up A Batch of Cassia Obovata
- Long Hair Care Forum: Henna Thread
- Video On Mixing Cassia
- Recipes for colorless conditioning using cassia
- How to use cassia for healthy, shiny hair
- How to use cassia and henna together
- Reader Questions On Henna
Hot Oil Treatments
- How To & Benefits: Hot Oil Treatments
- Video: How I Do My Hot Oil Treatments
- Incorporating Hot Oil Treatments Into My Regimen
- Pre-Poo 101: Why You Must Do This Every Washday
- FAQs about Pre-poo’ing (HOT/Oil Rinse) – Why, When & How! by Ebony of Longing4Length
- Oils & Benefits
- Oil Recipes
- Jojoba Oil
- Coconut Oil Revisited
- Sweet Almond Oil
- Argan Oil
- Grapeseed Oil [my favorite oil to seal with]
- Hemp Seed Oil & Ceramides
- Burdock Oil
- Vitamin E Oil
- Macadamia Nut Oil
- Sesame Oil
- The Benefits of Coconut Oil in Black Hair Care by Audrey Sivasothy
Itchy Scalp
Moisture
- Hair Care In Your Kitchen: Honey
- Product Review: Hairitage Hydration Cocoaloe Hair Hydrator
- Product Review: Herbal Essences Long Term Relationship (HE LTR)
- Product Review: Qhemet Biologics Burdock Root Butter Cream
- Product Review: Hairveda Whipped Creme Ends Hydration
- Product Review: Darcy's Botanicals Coconut Lemongrass Transitioning Creme - staple moisturizer
Moisturizing & Sealing
- Is Moisturizing and Sealing Important?
- Sealing Experiment: Why You Should Seal After Moisturizing
- Moisturize & Seal 101: What Is It? by Ebony of Longing4Length
- Video: How I Moisturize & Seal
- L.O.C. Method Remixed: Elevating the Moisture Game by Relaxed Hair Health
Night Routine
Porosity & Sealing Cuticles
- How To Use Roux Porosity Control
- Apple Cider Vinegar Rinses
- Follow Up On New Porosity Control
- Long Hair Care Forum: Porosity, The Forgotten Step
- Long Hair Care Forum: Porosity - The Uses of Baking Soda and Apple Cider Vinegar
- Low Porosity Hair by Tiffanita at Hairly Obsessed
- Be Mindful of Your Protective Styling
- Video: How I Bun My Hair
- Video: How to Pin Hair Into Faux Bob
- Links to posts on protective styling
Protein Our hair is 90% keratin, protein treatments help to stretchen our hair. Relaxed hair especially requires protein treatments from time to time because chemical relaxers break down the protein bonds in our hair.
- How To & Benefits: Protein Treatments
- Product Review: Paul Mitchell Super Strong Treatment
- Protein Overload: What It Is & How To Correct It
- Long Hair Care Forum: "To Clear The Air About Protein"
- Protein and Moisture Balancing in Black Hair Care: When To Say No To Moisture by Audrey Sivasothy
- Protein Overload? Let's Fix It by Hairlicious Inc.
Protein vs Moisture
- The Fine Art of Protein and Moisture Balancing for Black Hair Care by Audrey Sivasothy
- Direct link to article: Protein and Moisture Balancing in Black Hair Care: When to Say No to Moisture
Q&A
- "Picking Your Brain" Series
- View all Q&A posts here
- My Regimen
- My Regimen Explained
- My Wash Day (Video) - From Start to End
- Small Tweaks and Practices That Count
- Building Your Regimen:
- Hair Regimen Building by Audrey Sivasothy
- Your Hair Routine. How To Make It Work For You by Relaxed Hair Health
- Hair Regimen by Keep It Simple Sista
- Relaxed Hair Care Regimen on a College Budget by Audrey Sivasothy
- Starting Your Hair Regime: Part 1/3 by Fiona of LoveYourTresses
- Starting Your Hair Regime: Part 2/3 by Fiona of LoveYourTresses
- Starting Your Hair Regime: Part 3/3 by Fiona of LoveYourTresses
Relaxer Stretching
- Is It Beneficial To Stretch Your Relaxer: Tips For Relaxer Stretching
- Caring For Your New Growth
- Moisturizing My New Growth Made Easy
Roller Setting Hair
- First Mesh Roller Set & Results
- Decreasing Breakage When Roller Setting
- Long Hair Care Forum: Rolletsetting 2011 (Challenges, Tips, Techniques, etc.)
- Get a perfect flexirod set in 30 minutes! by EbonyCPrinces of Longing 4 Length
- How To: Style Roller Sets with Pin Curls by Kim Fancy of Fancy Flair Lady
Self-Relaxing / Texlaxing
- Video: How I Self Relax My Hair Using the Half and Half Method
- Video [UPDATE] How I Self Relax My Hair
- How I Self Relax My Hair (Steps)
- Texlaxing: What, How, & Why
- Is It Beneficial to Stretch Your Relaxer: Tips For Relaxer Stretching
- Relaxer Run-Off
- Why neutralizing the relaxer is important
- Getting Ready to Relax? Preparing Your Hair for a Relaxer Chemical Straightening by Audrey Sivasothy
- 8 Common Chemical Relaxer Mistakes Self Relaxers Make by Audrey Sivasothy
- Benefits of the Mid-Relaxer Protein Conditioning Step by Audrey Sivasothy
- Do:
- Protect your previously relaxed hair by coating it with a conditioner, oil, vaseline, etc. You want to make sure your previously relaxed hair is protected in order to minimize thinning and overprocessing due to relaxer runoff.
- Base your scalp.
- Thoroughly neutralize the relaxer. Using a color activated neutralizing shampoo works best for this.
- Don't:
- Irritate your scalp in the week leading up to your relaxer service.
- Wash your hair within 4 days of your relaxer services. Washing opens the pores of your scalp and may leave you susceptible to burns when you relax.
Serums
- Why use a serum? Serum aid in detangling by providing slip, act as a heat protectant when using direct heat, help smooth hair, and can even seal in leave-in conditioners and moisturizers.
- Product Review: Organix Nourishing Coconut Milk Anti-Breakage Serum
- Product Review: Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum
- Product Review: CHI Silk Infusion
- Product Review: Giovanni Frizz Be Gone
- Revisiting Organix Coconut Milk Serum
Shampooing
- Clarifying Shampoos
- Shampoo 101: Clarifying Shampoos
- Using Baking Soda to Clarify Your Hair
- Product Review: Paul Mitchell Shampoo Two (Clarifying Shampoo)
- Moisturizing Shampoos
- How to Select a Moisturizing Shampoo by Audrey Sivasothy
- Product Review: Paul Mitchell Awapuhi Wild Ginger Moisturizing Lather Shampoo
- Product Review: Mizani Supreme Oil Sulfate Free Moisturizing Shampoo
- Protein Shampoos
- Product Review: Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Shampoo
Shedding
- 8 Ways to stop your Shedding now! by Relaxed Hair Health
- Tea Rinses: How To & Benefits
- Black Tea Rinse, I ♥ you
- Infusing Your Own Garlic Oil
- Combating Seasonal Shedding (Benefits of Garlic)
Supplements
- My History with Hair Supplements
- Day or Night: Does it matter when we take our vitamins? by Relaxed Hair Health
Tea Rinses
- Black Tea Rinse, I ♥ you
- Tea Rinses: How To & Benefits
- Partying with Marshallow, Burdock & Green Tea
Terminal Length
- Terminal Length and the Role of Genetics in Black Hair Care by Audrey Sivasothy
Trims/Hair Cuts
Thickening Up Hair
- 7 Ways To Thicken Hair By Audrey Sivasothy
- How To Get Thicker Hair by Sunshyne of Hairlicious, Inc.
With smiles,

this post is brilliant! I believe you have covered everything here, thanks for taking the time out to do it :D
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ReplyDeleteI have come out of lurking to say this post is amazing! wish i had this before
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ReplyDeleteDo you have tips or a video about how to dust and/or trim? Thanks.
ReplyDeleteHi. Thanks for making all this information available for us. This has been very helpful. I have two questions:
ReplyDelete1. Would you recommend washing with baking soda after relaxer to help neutralize?
2. Is it necessary to wrap your hair at night or can I just make a bun and put on my satin scarf? I ask because I want to decrease manipulation and I cant find a way to wrap my hair without combing and brushing a lot and my hair is too short to do a cross wrap. Can I just make a protective style and put on my scarf?
Thanks a lot.
Hi Magda,
DeleteI haven't read anything on using baking soda as a neutralizer but I don't think I would chance it. Baking soda can be used to clarify hair to remove product build up but I'd be very wary of using it as a neutralizer. A relaxer works by breaking the protein bonds in the hair to straighten it, I'd honestly be terrified trying to use baking soda to stop the relaxer
Bunning and covering with your satin scarf is perfectly fine. I've doing the very same thing for the past week and half :)
Thank you for the info.
DeleteI read that no-lye relaxers leave deposits on your hair (calcium compound). I thought maybe clarifying would help with that. What do you think about using lye vs. no-lye relaxers?
Using a chelating shampoo would remove any minerals that a no-lye relaxer leaves on the hair.
DeleteChoosing a lye or no-lye relaxer is person specific; there are pros and cons to both. Here's a really helpful link on the differences, pros, cons, etc. between the two formulas. http://www.blackhairscience.com/better.html
Hope this helps.
Are these tips for women with natural hair as well??
DeleteOMG this is awesome:) I am natural but this is good info that can be applied to anyone wanting healthy hair.
ReplyDeleteWinona
For months, Ive been trying to achieve healthy hair and BSL but nothing would work! I think this guide will finally put me on the right track! Thank you for posting!
ReplyDelete-Elise( Trinidad)
Just found this blog it is awesome. I've recently re-started my hair growth journey. Couple of questions. How long do you stretch ur relaxer and what relaxer works best for you. I'm still unsure at the relaxer that I currently use and I'm too scared to change it up. I usually get a relaxer every 3 months but I'm trying to push it a bit further. My protective style is a ponytail or bun I do allow my self to wear my hair down at least once a month for a week but that is about it. Thank u for this blog about "relaxed" hair. Everyone seems to be going natural at the moment and I'm not ready so I can appericate this site so much. Again thank you for the inspiration!!!
ReplyDeleteI normally stretch between 10-12 weeks, but I'm currently going for 19 weeks. I've been using ORS Relaxer, lye formula, normal stretching for a year I think and I love it because I texlax my hair and it leaves me underprocessed just the way I want. Good luck on your journey!
DeleteThanks so much for putting this page together - I know you did it ages ago but as someone who's just starting out on her hair journey this is incredibly helpful!
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DeleteAre these hair tips for women with natural hair as well?
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely
DeleteHi Jen. Just signed up to your site and I love it! I am about to start my relaxed hair journey totally from scratch. I have been doing research for the past week but I am still unsure about what to do first. Any advice on how to start?
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ReplyDeleteHow do you detangle your hair?
ReplyDeleteI currently have a sew in weave to give my hair a break to grow. Do you have any tips on growing your hair while having a weave?
ReplyDeleteI recently started a blog to document my hair journey. I've decided to go natural in an attempt to recapture a quality of hair that has evaded me for sometime now. I figured going natural would afford me the benefit of being curly or straight. Then I came across your blog. Totally had me thinking for a bit!
ReplyDeleteI think I will still stay on the natural route, but your blog has completely blown me away with the amount of content and knowledge, I don't know where to start. I'm hoping that your entries can help me find a regime that works for me, and getting me back to the healthy hair I once had.
Amazing!
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ReplyDeleteDetailed and well researched! Thanks so much!
ReplyDeleteWill be sharing this with other newbies stat!