Thursday, April 30, 2015

Wash Day & Back Into Twists


My love affair with marley twists continues. Towards the end of my transition, they gave me a much needed break and I've gotten use to how easy/fuss free marley twists; I'm not ready to part ways. It had been 2 weeks since I last wash and deep conditioned my hair so my tresses were due for some pampering.

[1] Pre-pooed with Shea Moisture Intensive Hydration Conditioner + coconut oil on top for 2 hours with my Hot Head conditioning cap.
[2] Cowased with As I Am Coconut CoWash Cleansing Conditioner
[3] Coffee rinsed.
[4] Deep conditioned with Silk Dreams Vanilla Silk Cream Moisture Dream for 15 minutes under my steamer.
[5] After letting my hair cool, I rinsed the deep conditioner out and squeezed the excess water from my hair.
[6] Then I applied my leave-ins (Kurlee Belle Thirsty Kurls Leave-In Conditioner & Paul Mitchell Super Skinny Serum) and put my hair back into my marley twists.

I start my twists off as if I'm doing a box braid and then switch to twisting once the hair feels secure. It takes me about 4 hours to install my marley braids. As for long these twists will be in, I normally keep my twists in for 1 to 2 weeks before taking them down to deep condition and redo.



How was your recent wash day? What's your favorite protective style?


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Monday, April 27, 2015

Transitioning Talk: I Big Chopped... and I Didn't Tell You


Hi all, long time no talk. Gather 'round, I've a story for your today. Once upon a little there was a lady that loved to do her hair...  then she transitioned for 20 months and towards the end she got tired of dealing with her hair, so she hid it away in marley twists. She fell in love with marley twists and has been wearing her like that for the last couple of months. Ok I'll stop being a weirdo and speaking in third person...

Two weeks ago, while getting ready to reinstall my marley twists, I stared at my hair in the mirror and was just totally over my transition. I had reached 21 months + 1 week post and I was just ovvvveeerrrrr it all. I'd been cutting so much that I'd only had about 5 inches of relaxed hair left so cutting off large chunks of hair wasn't too foreign a feeling by that time. Before I could change my mind, I picked up my hair shears, grabbed a chunk of hair and snipped.

At the end I looked at the hair in my sink and had a WHAT THE EFF DID I JUST DO?!?!?!?! moment. In my mind I heard Boyz II Men "although we've come to the end of the road, still I can't let go" playing as I stared at my relaxed ends. My relaxed ends love to clump together, so that made it fairly easy to spot the straighter strands but I made sure I worked in smallish chunks.

Once I'd finished, I may or may not have pranced around my entire apartment saying "OMG this transition is over!"

One thing is for sure, my texture is not uniform.


With conditioner + oil

WHY DID I TRANSITION TO NATURAL?

I made the decision to transition to natural back in April of last year to support my mother who is natural, but not a fan of her natural hair. My mom had the firm belief that only relaxed hair could grow long, and seeing my long, relaxed hair only solidified that idea. To help her see that she could do it and having relaxed hair does not equal long hair, I decided to stash my jar or ORS lye in my closet and transition. You can check out my full post on my decision to transition here.

HOW LONG DID I TRANSITION?

21 months + 1 week.

WHY DID I TRANSITION LONG-TERM?

But the time I made up my mind about going natural, I was already deep into a relaxer stretch. Since the thought of cutting off my then waist-length made my head spin, transitioning long term was on my only option really.

WHY DID I KEEP IT A SECRET?

Well, it wasn't intentional. I promise! Right after big chopping I re-did my marley twists and had them in for two straight weeks. With my hair tucked away it was easy to forget that I had actually ended my transition; out of sight, out of mind. I think tucking away my hair right after chopped actually helped me cope with the shocker factor. Right after chopping I had no idea what to do with my hair. I probably would've cried out of frustration had I not tucked it away.

HOW DO I FEEL ABOUT IT?

The OMGdfdkjfidgjdigj?!?!?!?! feeling has worn off and I love it. I miss the way hair used to be but it's moreso I miss the length and not fact that it was relaxed. The length will return, I just have to be patient. Which I'm not right now, my mindset is totally on grow, grow, grow. My blog name is totally relevant again lol.

I took my twists out a couple days ago and fell in love with my hair. I definitely had a moment where I looked in the mirror and thought "is that me????" To put my reaction is perspective: my mother relaxed my hair when I was very little. Before this transition I had no memory of what my natural texture looked it. I had done very few braid outs on my relaxed hair and none of them had the level of texture the picture below has, so seeing my hair like this was definitely a shocker.
This is the result of an unintentional twist out, after taking out my marley braids I didn't feel like washing my hair. See, told you I've gotten lazy.

What surprised me the most is how much my grandmother likes my natural. She's never really been a fan of me taking care of my hair on my own... even after growing to waist length and proving I could care for my hair on my own, whenever I visited her she'd still manage to tell me that I should go straighten my hair (because my texlaxed hair wasn't straight enough apparently) and that I should let a "professional" do it or else my hair was going to break off. When my granny called my twist out beautiful, I just about fainted.

I hope wearing my hair out prompts my mother to want to wear her hair out as well. She still hasn't but I'm going to try my best to get her comfortable with the thought.

WILL I EVER GO BACK TO RELAXING MY HAIR?

Maybe, maybe not. I'm still all for healthy relaxed hair so I definitely wouldn't be opposed to relaxing my hair again if that's what I wanted to do. My answer right this moment would be 'no,' but only because I just finished a super long transition and the thought of going through another long term transition just makes me cringe.



New hair, new hair journey, but still the same on old Jen. For my relaxed readers, I'm not abandoning you. I will still continue to share relaxed hair tips. The fun apart about starting a new journey? I get to play around and try out a bunch of new products! The product junkie in me lives again :)

Friday, March 27, 2015

A Bare Minimum Wash Day & Channeling My Inner Minnie Mouse

This week's wash day was a pretty lazy wash day as my wash days go. I did the bare minimum to my twists.

[1] I rinsed my scalp and hair with apple cider vinegar to cleanse and remove product build up (massaging my scalp with the pads of my finger to loosen any product clinging to my scalp).
[2] After wrapping my hair with a towel for about an hour to soak up all the excess water, I sprayed my twists with watered down mix of Kurlee Belle Thirsty Kurls Leave-In + glycerin.
[3] My twists in the front frizzed up so I took those down and redid them to wrap up my wash day.

There's nothing spectacualr about seeing wet twists so there's no photos of those steps but a couple readers sent in emails about how I wear my hair for bed to prevent my twists from frizzing... I channel my inner Minnie Mouse.

Using just one hair band, I wrap the twists around the base (as if I were doing any ol' bun) and then use a hair band to secure it. I make sure I pile the hair at the very top of my head because it leaves the sides and back of my head free when sleeping/tossing around my bed, and also helps protect the twists from frizzing when rubbing against my pillows. To prevent my edges and nape, I wrap a silk scarf around my head.





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